I’m so happy that the jacket weather is back! 💃🏻 I’m also not the greatest at choosing practical foot wear but this was a great choice from To Save.
I have been chatting with an old friend of mine and she pointed out that I have been M.I.A. Two days before that I had bumped into another friend who shouted my three names and I was like : OH GOD NO! WHO HAS SEEN ME IN THIS UGLY OUTFIT I’M SHAMELESSLY WEARING TODAY? I turned around and it was a friend from my first high school – someone I haven’t seen in nearly 12 years.
You see the thing with growing up is that you leave people behind, regardless of whether you plan to or not. You realise that you now bump into each other in random places or touch base on Facebook with “Happy Birthday! Miss You! Let’s get some coffee / lunch soon!” messages. And my all time favourite, Facebook memories that remind you of each other’s existence.
I think its safe to say that time and life decides which friends you walk with into adult-hood. Of course that happens to be a handful of friends because if twenty five-year old Njeri wanted to have as many friends as eighteen year old Njeri did, then She would have to take up “being a friend” as a full-time job or she would keep letting a lot of them down. And I don’t want either of those things.
In all honesty I am still happy to watch the lives of my old friends play out on social media. I get a surge of YAAAASSS when I see an engagement ring or when they tell the world they are having a baby and I feel bad when life deals them an ugly hand. Just because they are not in my life anymore doesn’t mean I don’t care.
So today I’m dedicating this post to all the friends I haven’t seen in a long time. To all the friends I have made along the way from my kindergarten boyfriend to the girl who becomes my best friend in the bathroom of a nightclub. To the people who helped shape who I am today. To the people who have made me laugh until I cried and to the people who have picked me up on bad days.
Just because I don’t see you every day, or even every year, doesn’t mean that I don’t still think you’re absolutely awesome. Here’s to the memories <3