It Sucks to Be Skinny

by Grace Njeri
73 comments

I am looking at these pictures today and I can’t begin to tell you how happy and confident I have become over the last years.

Well… This year mostly.

The reason for the smile in all these pictures is because of the great transformation I see in myself. I have become so comfortable in my own skin I puzzle myself. Before I continue I know I might receive some backlash from this post but I do believe someone out there can identify with my story.

I was so insecure because I have always been so skinny, so small. Too skinny actually, the doctor would call it underweight.

I am a size 6 and this is an improvement from a size 4. The jumpsuit I am wearing in this post is actually for a 13 year old.

I have got people asking me “Are you okay?” “Do you feel pain anywhere?”

I don’t blame them because it all came from a place of concern but mostly ignorance. Worst thing is that I couldn’t say anything about it because you sound like an ungrateful person ranting on and on about how skinny you are yet almost everyone is trying to loose weight.

Well like I said two posts ago, I will make a conscious effort to bring you in on my personal insecurities in the hope that first, someone out there can relate and start to appreciate their skinny selves.

It is okay to shop at the 13 year old section of the shops to find stuff that fits. And as unAfrican as it is to not be a skinny woman, we will try our best with the help of push-up bras and super jeans for the curves.

Secondly, to educate those who do not understand that weight gain is a struggle for some. Because our metabolisms are so high that we burn food faster than we can control. And we are not skinny because we do not eat.

Side bar :  I probably eat larger quantities and more frequently that you all do. Also when you see those skinny girls working out at the gym please stop with the “What are you doing here questions”. My skinny self would like to stay healthy too that is why I am in the gym thank you very much.

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Photography by Mwaniki Will

Makeup by Mia Muhoro

Denim Jumpsuit – Marks & Spencer

Hair by Leo Salon & Barber Garden City

Heels – Beverly Heels

 

 

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73 comments

Jeff August 22, 2016 - 00:01

are you OK…do you feel pain anywhere?
its a struggle lol

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Grace Njeri August 22, 2016 - 21:16

Jeff I know!! You get the same questions?

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JP August 22, 2016 - 00:48

Best post so far…

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Grace Njeri August 22, 2016 - 21:18

JP , thank you so much!! Your comment boosts my confidence and motivation to keep doing this.
Thank you!!

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Anndear August 22, 2016 - 08:42

‘Do you feel pain anywhere’..One of my best posts.I love the authentic you. Keep up the good work.We are in this ‘skinning’ together.Much love cousin..

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Grace Njeri August 22, 2016 - 21:18

Anndear thank you so much cousin. Lets keep skinning together

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Mia Muhoro August 22, 2016 - 10:53

Love it

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Grace Njeri August 22, 2016 - 21:19

Thank you Mia

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Jessie August 22, 2016 - 11:40

Beautiful post for anyone thats ever gone through such unwelcome opinions.

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Grace Njeri August 22, 2016 - 21:20

Thank you so much Jessie

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jahenda August 22, 2016 - 12:01

Very true

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Grace Njeri August 22, 2016 - 21:20

Thank you Jahenda

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Vallary August 25, 2016 - 11:14

Thank you Njeri, I don’t know you but this has encouraged me, I will start building some confidence, I do have insecurities about my body, 6 years ago a guy left me because to him I didn’t have a ‘good body’ ‘i was skinny’, I was so heart broken, this led to my low self esteem, I don’t have friends as in I don’t make friends, I don’t go swimming because I believe I am too skinny, I am scared to be in any relationship because to me men love big women with big behinds and big boobs’ I don’t go out with friends, I am always alone. But I hope your story will help me change.

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Shiroh August 22, 2016 - 13:00

Wow! We should see more of this authenticity and realness….

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Grace Njeri August 22, 2016 - 21:21

Shiroh, I will keep it coming. Thank you for reading

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Assunta Beatrice August 22, 2016 - 15:22

It was an awesome read(definitely subscribing to your blog) I’m glad you’ve reached a place of acceptance and sharing your testimony .
Speaking from experience I’ve always been the shortest smallest one in a crowd.(totally understand the high metabolism reality). Somewhere along the way weight found me(i gave up on height) and I’m absolutely content with my size 10.
Keep up the good work

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Grace Njeri August 22, 2016 - 21:29

Beatrice thank you so much for reading and i’m so glad to know that we share the same story and that you tok are content with how you are right now.
And thank you for reading too!!

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Ephantus August 22, 2016 - 16:18

Very beautiful just the way you are!

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Grace Njeri August 22, 2016 - 21:30

Thank you Ephantus

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Chebet August 22, 2016 - 18:20

You are too Pretty ❤

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Grace Njeri August 22, 2016 - 21:30

Thank you so much Chebet. So are you!!

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Yvonne August 22, 2016 - 20:07

This post resonates with me, well I’ve added some extra pounds since my pregnancy, but being slim/skinny most of my life, I get your struggle. Lovely outfit and post!
http://www.yvonneinbloom.com

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Grace Njeri August 22, 2016 - 21:33

Yvonne, First of all I love your blog.
Thank you so much for sharing your story too.
Cheers!

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Nyambura August 22, 2016 - 20:31

Oh Njeri I can totally relate. It’s such a struggle.

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Grace Njeri August 22, 2016 - 21:36

Nyambura, thank you!!

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kioko August 23, 2016 - 23:05

Self confidence comes from believing, appreciating and loving urself…great article that was…

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Sue :-* August 22, 2016 - 21:19

Amaizing

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Grace Njeri August 22, 2016 - 21:36

Thank you Sue

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Alice August 22, 2016 - 21:47

I have a skinny body too…its just my nature but at times people blame u for not eating…but I get it.

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Grace Njeri August 22, 2016 - 22:04

Thank you Alice, even when you are eating just fine right?

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shirley August 22, 2016 - 22:12

My dear, I feel your pain. I eat more than any person I know but have never weighed more than 50kg . I can’t even get clothes that fit in a normal boutique.

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Grace Njeri August 22, 2016 - 22:20

Shirley, I too have never weighed above 50kgs. Cheer up my love. You are beautiful as you are.

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Christmas August 22, 2016 - 22:51

People try to hang bags on my ‘soap dish’ or hip bones. Saying they are protruding enough to hang a hand bag. I have learnt to accept me as i am, since i found my self as so, hence that was the plan of the universe. So i laugh with them and it becomes easier to deal.

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HAZEL August 23, 2016 - 00:14

Iv also always been so tiny and being short never helped. Then my younger sister got the height and the curves and people would compare us (still do) saying how i don’t eat, that i should put on weight, telling me i look like im a kid when im 21, like some of these things get to you coz people say it like it’s wrong to be small. Then came the glorification of bigger women. But just like you, i grew into my own and accepted myself and im happy and love being tiny. It’s beautiful and i know it and it doesn’t matter what anyone thinks. 🙂 Loved your blog post , i totally relate. Thanks for sharing.
P.s. you are really beautiful.

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Nyoro August 23, 2016 - 01:18

Take this from a skinny guy, don’t care what anyone says. They have tried to get to me but no way am letting them in. All jokes aside, look at you, you are too pretty to even care what they say.

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Loreen August 23, 2016 - 09:39

You are very beautiful.

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Emelda August 23, 2016 - 11:30

Thanks for sharing,you speak for many of us who gO through the same scenario,,it’s even hard to explain to my grandma that I eat,gaining wait is as hard as loosing,,,am only 45 only my family and close friends that have seen me grow are not surprised.

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Natalie khaduli August 23, 2016 - 13:16

I thought i was the only one getting those questions…especially why are you working out?

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Wanjiru Kanyanjua August 23, 2016 - 13:32

Being skinny sucks.. Especially the questions that follow.. I love the post.. I’m learning to walk away from the comments

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Pat August 23, 2016 - 13:58

So i hit the gym about 3weeks ago, everybody kept asking that question ‘what are u duin here’….i eventually got tired…no support or motivation i opted out of the gym…coz i got tired of the comments….and the ‘eyes’

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Nelly August 23, 2016 - 15:45

*SIGH* I understand this struggle, especially when people think you eat too much but still there is no evidence that you’re eating. But like you, I’m much more confident in my skin as I’m growing older.

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Vicky August 23, 2016 - 18:24

I red this and related all the way.Reading this made me feel like I finally connected with someone !I love it!
Thank you so much.I love my skinny self:-)

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Vicky August 23, 2016 - 18:28

I read this and related all the way.Reading this made me feel like I finally connected with someone !I love it!
Thank you so much.I love my skinny self:-)

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Jacie Jess August 23, 2016 - 21:53

I understand you better dear.Am also in the skinny and small category.I always had self esteem issues but later on I learned to appreciate myself.Now everyone likes me and compliment my body as the anti ageing one.

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Alice August 23, 2016 - 22:55

Finally! Someone who speaks my language. Like where have you been!!!!! #TeamSuperfastMetabolism #WeAreTheEnvyOfMany keep it up Grace. I’m size six too, even Jane Mukami couldn’t help me gain weight coz she just don’t gerrit! Lol

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Juanita August 24, 2016 - 09:29

You’re so pretty!!! I love the look too!

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Skinny and fabulous August 24, 2016 - 09:34

This has been the story of my life. Always been a size six despite the much or little i eat. I got tired of explaining about my weight years ago and any unwelcome or nasty comments are met by a not so polite response lol9i sure do know how to navigate this well). Had quite the low self esteem when growing up because of being teased but i’ve now grown into my own and i feel really good about myself. I love my bod too much hehe. Life is sure a struggle because guess what, whether skinny,fat, tall, short, dark, big nose, small nose, everyone is pretty much teased about something, it’s just life lol.

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ME August 24, 2016 - 09:35

at 29 i weight 46kgs. my bra size is 32D! i look like a young boy with boobs.

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lizz August 24, 2016 - 10:32

my confidence…kip it up gaaal

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celestine August 24, 2016 - 10:48

Imagine being too skinny at the same time too tall. When i got a job in a new company everybody thought i was sick because i was too skinny and too tall. Anyway i had to build my own confidence somehow. Every time you see a doctor they ask you if you are eating well reason being you are underweight yet you eat more than anyone can imagine. 28years and you weigh 49kgs yet you are 5’8 tall

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Zubby August 24, 2016 - 12:32

It’s worse if you have a child and still skinny yet everyone expects you to add ‘some meat’ after giving birth. I get comments like how did you carry the pregnancy, you are too small to be his mom. Over the years, i too have learnt to be comfortable in the body am in

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Nzisa August 24, 2016 - 15:00

I totally get where you are coming from. How crazy is it I came across this same day as I did my post on being skinny. (http://nzisaslifestyle.com/body-speak/ )Great Piece. “You dont need to go to the gym! What you gotta lose? “- among my worst questions.

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Lisa August 24, 2016 - 18:08

I thought I was alone in this… Being skinny is not easy in this generation. But then again, we all grow to accept who we are, it’s the best thing you can do for yourself.

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Mutheu August 24, 2016 - 18:15

Oh wow… Where do I even start. I totally agree… And understand what you mean. I have struggled with getting clothes and even shoes. For lack of a better word…. Most people lack wisdom and just speak comments that are hurtful. Like “are you 12″ and you are 26…#theheck???…or” if you just wear school uniform you can go back to standard eight” :/… Why???
But thank God, just like you, I love my body and have come to accept it.
Mutheu

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Joy August 24, 2016 - 18:48

I am ad skinny as you are or probably even skinnier. I like going to the gym but it pains me when women trying to shed some weight just look at me and sneer. Yet I am there to tone my body. Have you been stopped by a traffic officer when you’re driving? First they ask for my driving licence, then as soon as they see how tiny I look in that driver’s seat, they ask for my National ID this has happened a number of times. I used to give them before just to avoid further disturbance, but these days I ask them to just call KRA and check if they issue the drivers’ licence to underage people. Then there’s the shopping part. I totally feel you on this one… most of my clothes have the ‘Age 10-12/14yrs’ on them. I at one point hated how skinny I was and all the insecurities it came with, but these days, I flaunt it like it’s all I got.
Thank you for sharing this.

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Kris August 24, 2016 - 19:06

Happy to read this. Thought It was just me…

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CB August 24, 2016 - 20:03

I’m a guy, skinny too and tall…Not that I don’t eat btw… I could out eat all my big friends. How does one gain weight with our fast metabolisms…. Any advice would be highly appreciated.

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Maureen nyambura August 24, 2016 - 21:10

Awwww grace I go through the same…It feels so bad when even young people look bigger…but I learnt to accept myself as I am and appreciate myself…life is to short you know

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eliza August 24, 2016 - 21:11

Omg! Thanks you. Am not alone in this. I thought being skinny n the ridicules that comes with it were the worse thing that can happened to anyone . until one day I visited ICU ward and I realised how previledge I was before God’s eyes to have my whole body organs function. I realised that I was perfectly healthy and I really don’t need to fit into this ” ideal” body shape in order to enjoy life. Life is to short for as long u are healthy my dear, celebrate your skinny self.

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Anne Michaels August 25, 2016 - 00:21

I actually go through the same experience. People ask me whether I eat since it’s unAfrican to be skinny.Before comments like those used to get to me until I decided to go see a doctor. Doctor told me that I am fine. Today, I get amused at those comments because I remember I am beautiful and that I love my body. Thanks for sharing your experience

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Patricia August 25, 2016 - 04:51

This post speaks to me at such a personal level. I feel like the African society adds on to the pressure as women are supposed to look a certain way. It took me leaving the country where I felt I was under a microscope to finally accept myself. Now I have this thick skin and the comments don’t get to me.Thanks for this.

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Wambui August 25, 2016 - 10:29

This is just incredible. Proud of you girl. Let only your character define you.

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Mawia August 25, 2016 - 11:42

Where have you been all my life… … Finally one of a kind struggle

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Aggie August 25, 2016 - 13:00

I don’t know you, but hey you spoke for me..weight gain is a struggle. Thank you for sharing this.

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Sheila August 25, 2016 - 14:04

How I thought I was alone in this … thanks a lot for sharing this.Am encouraged.

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Gee August 25, 2016 - 14:45

I look at your pics and think to myself, “she has a bit of weight.” My BMI is below 18, at 24 I can comfortably go back to class 6 and no one will be any wiser.Eating? I eat a loot and all the time and I’ll eat anyone who backlashes this too…

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Ninah August 27, 2016 - 20:37

I so relate and i am glad to be skinny and beautiful. Thanks for the reminder of who i am

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Christine September 5, 2016 - 17:07

Have you met me? Dont answer that, its a rhetorical question…..I know where you are coming from esp with eating, i eat alooooot! And its even worse that I am kinda short, being a 5’4.. I cant even put on my younger cousins’ clothes cus they are biiiig..

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Kerubo November 24, 2016 - 12:59

I can relate to this and having met a doctor who thought I had anorexia. I eat all the time but not even an inch of weight is added. I have learnt to love myself. I resorted to making my own clothes because I couldn’t find something that fit.

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Grace Njeri November 26, 2016 - 20:21

Hi Kerubo,
Thank you for sharing your story with me too. Skinny girls ROCK!!!!
Love always,
Grace

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Grace Njeri November 30, 2016 - 21:39

Thank you Kerubo for sharing!! Skinny girls Rock!! YOU rock!!

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